Pollyannaish realizations

Sometimes, it seems like there is nothing positive happening in life. There are times when we feel like we just can't win. Some days, I would like to put the pillow over my head and just stay there.

But, the truth is that there are positives. Sometimes I have to look at my kids to see the positives, but sometimes, just sometimes, I realize that all of this pain and yuck has actually given me some amazing realizations. That silly saying about everything that doesn't kill you making you stronger has some actual validity. While some of the realizations are really painful (it's hard after your partner had an affair and left you to realize that you did a lot of things wrong and a lot of things were really your fault), but some of the realizations are actually just empowering.

1. I can love and not blindly follow or obey.

2. Forgiving doesn't mean that I leave myself open to the same hurts again. It means I can focus on what I need to.

3. Making sure that I have worked on my issues, doesn't mean anything about the other person, it just means I will be able to live well in the future with myself and my family.

4. I look so much better when I return to seeing myself in the mirror through my own eyes.

Some days are just better than others.